Your daughter's pregnant. You're in shock. Now what?
Five Things That You Can Do:
- Listen
- When asked, offer advice
- Be supportive of whatever decision she makes
- Do research
- Be there
Testimonials from Mothers of Birth Mothers
I am the mother of a Gladney birthmother.
We just got our lastest packet of pictures and a letter from the
adoptive parents. I know your letter is a standard letter but, when I read the line about the first year being difficult, I have to say in this case it has not been difficult at all.
My daughter is doing great, she just finished her first year at Texas A&M. For spring break she got to go with a group of students to London and had a wonderful time. She will be taking some classes this summer and starting a new job with The Marriott. We keep in contact with the adoptive parents through emails and plan to see them some time this summer. It has been a wonderful relationship that I know will continue to grow. I don't think I can accurately describe just what a wonderful experience this has been for her. She feels so blessed to be able to have her dream of college come true and know that the baby is having the kind of love and life he deserves. Then there is the fact that he will always know how much he was and is loved and that we will always be here for him.
I know not all adoptions turn out as wonderful as this one has, but this one has been perfect. Everytime we see pictures of the family, or hear the joy in their emails and letters, we both feel so blessed to have found them. They are like family to us. I tell people when the subject comes up how great our situation turned out and how wonderful everyone with Gladney has been.
Not one time has my daughter ever questioned her decision or wondered what if.... The day we left
Ft Worth from the official placement she smiled and said she felt like the weight of the world had been lifted off her shoulders. She had been so worried that the birth father or his family would cause trouble (he came from a family involved in drugs and illegal activity). She went on to say the adoptive parents are so perfect for the baby and he for them.
So we will continue to let you know how things are going and it won't be long and we will be sending you all a graduation invitation from A&M!
Thank you for all you do.
May 2010
Missive of My Last Year With: MY BABY GIRL
ON A BRIGHT AND SUNNY DAY MY BABY GIRL SAID I CAN'T GO OUT AND PLAY
SHE SAID OH MOM I THINK THERE IS A BABY ON THE WAY
OH GOD I SAID THAT CAN'T BE
CAUSE YOU'RE STILL A BABY TO ME
SHE CRIED AND CRIED AND SO DID I
OH GOD IN HEAVEN WHERE ARE YOU
GIVE US THE STRENGTH TO MAKE IT THROUGH
AND DID YOU KNOW GOD SPOKE TO ME
HE SAID I HAVE A PLAN DON'T YOU SEE
DON'T FORGET THAT BABY GIRL BELONGS TO ME
DECISIONS DECISIONS SHE NEEDS TO MAKE
WE MET HER OWN BIRTH MOTHER TO GET HER TAKE
ADOPTION IT IS THERE IS NO MISTAKE
THEN ONE COLD WINDY DAY WE TOOK MY BABY GIRL FAR AWAY
TO THE GLADNEY CENTER THERE TO STAY
AT THE GLADNEY CENTER MY BABY GIRL IS NO MORE
SHE BECOMES HER OWN BOSS SHE KNOWS THE SCORE
SHE IS GIVEN SOME BOOKS OF FAMILIES TO CHOOSE
SHE MAKES HER OWN CHOICE SHE CAN'T LOOSE
MY BABY GIRL IS GONE ON THIS DAY
A BEAUTFUL BABY BOY WAS BORN TODAY
SHE IS A MOMMY NOW AND THAT'S HARD TO SAY
THERES A LOVING FAMILY FOR HIM AND THAT MAKES HER GLAD
AT THE SAME TIME IT MAKES HER VERY SAD
SHE HAS GIVEN HER HEART TO HIM AND THAT'S NO LIE
IT IS ALMOST TIME TO SAY GOODBYE
MY BABY GIRL CRIED AND CRIED TODAY
HER BEAUTFUL BABY BOY HAS GONE AWAY
GOD'S PLAN IS GOOD AND SHE WON'T WEEP
SHE KNOWS THIS BABY BOY WAS NOT HERS TO KEEP
GOD HOW I LOVE HER AND AM SO VERY PROUD
I KNOW SHE WON'T WALK AROUND WITH A SHROUD
MY BABY GIRL IT IS PLAIN TO SEE IS ALREADY A BETTER MOMMY THAN ME
HE WAS NOT CONCIEVED IN LOVE DON'T YOU SEE
BUT HE WILL ALWAYS BE LOVED BY MY BABY GIRL AND ME
THANK YOU GOD WE CAN SEE
LOVE MOM
APRIL 2007
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